Tuesday, June 21, 2005

What the F

I was craving a Raspberry Arizona Iced Tea. So I went out to grab one and just got hit, hard, on by a married man. He didn't even bother to hide his ring.

Convo:

Him: Hey I saw you eating at Potbelly's the other day.
Me: Oh.
Him: Was that your boyfriend?
Me: No, my friend and co-worker. (Although people at work suspect an affair... which will probably be a completely different post altogether...)
Him: Well do you have a boyfriend? (Looks me up and down with a creepy-ass smile)
Me: Why?
Him: I was thinking maybe you'd like to eat lunch with me sometime.
Me: You're married.
Him: So? I'm still fun. (Does the double eyebrow raise)
Me: No, thanks. (with tons of attitude & a sneer)

Seriously, what the f. What is wrong with people these days? If you're married (or in a relationship at all, for that matter) you do not stop girls you think are cute and ask them to lunch. Geez.

What the hell did he expect me to say? "Gee, buddy... If you're fun, let's cut out the lunch and meet at a hotel for an hour... Who cares about your wife anyway."

Guys (and girls) like this, with no morals, never cease to amaze me.

32 Comments:

At 1:29 PM, Blogger cuff said...

Pick up at potbelly's...nice. By the way, I'm married and old and have kids. It wasn't me.

 
At 1:49 PM, Anonymous Lauren said...

What a SLEAZE! Ugh, he should be jailed. The one who really loses in all of this is his wife.

 
At 2:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Doesnt suprise me at all.

 
At 2:30 PM, Blogger AMS said...

I'd rather eat my own vomit for lunch

 
At 2:38 PM, Blogger DC Cookie said...

That has to be the funniest post I have read all day. If you're going to cheat, why the EFFFF do you get married in the first place? I hope his wife is going to lunch with other men...

 
At 2:38 PM, Blogger cuff said...

AMS,
I'm sure you will someday.

 
At 2:44 PM, Blogger Lil DC Diva said...

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE. SERIOUSLY - why make a LIFE commitment to someone when a person can't even take it SERIOUSLY.

I'm outraged. I cannot believe how sleazy people are in this world.

 
At 3:02 PM, Blogger Asian Mistress said...

That's foul. I get irritated enough having to check out wedding rings at bars (why are you at a bar ALONE anyway if you're married...there should be a rule - not to say married people can't go drink and whatnot, but when it's an obvious meat market type situation)...but the fact that one would try to hit on you and think you would LIKE it? Gross. Right, so you're gonna cheat on your wife - why would I want to get with you again? Do you really think you're that hot? Ugh.

 
At 3:57 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You all act like this a new thing that just started happening. Open you eyes it happens all the time. Why do you think so many people are divorced.

 
At 4:14 PM, Blogger Lil DC Diva said...

Our points are that it is unacceptable behavior, even in today's society. Just because it is happening doesn't make it right. I'm glad to see that this many people are upset as I am - at least some people find it disgusting and repulsive. It's not "new" at all, but when it hits close to home (i.e. to yourself or a friend), it pisses you off and makes you think deeper about the issue.

 
At 4:22 PM, Blogger cuff said...

If you all have figured out the vagaries of the human heart, then open up a practice, because you'll rake it in.

Most if not all of our popular culture -- movies, literature, TV, even music -- is predicated on the fact that people are emotional fuckups. It's been that way for a long time and no end appears in sight.

 
At 7:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

So the double eye brow raise is NOT a good thing??

Got it....Thanks.

 
At 8:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That happens to me all the time. The men are generally harmless and are best ignored. If a guy hits on you while sporting a gold wedding band, he's probably just bored and trying to see if he can get a reaction. If they're really interested in you, they take off the ring.

 
At 9:49 PM, Blogger Sara said...

Regardless of if the guys are just trying to get a reaction or not, they are not harmless. Actions like that always harm the wife (and children if there are any). Would you want your husband/boyfriend (or wife/girlfriend) out trying to get a reaction out of someone else?

 
At 10:25 PM, Blogger A Unique Alias said...

In reading all these comments, it seems like no one has considered the possibility that his is an open marriage, or one of convenience.

"Actions like that always harm the wife"

Unless she's 'down' with it. Granted, the creepy smile was probably as much of a "tell" as a crocodile smile in a hand of poker, but - - why rush to judgement when you can straight up ask: "Does your wife know that you try to pick up random young girls?"

 
At 11:50 PM, Anonymous cjt said...

Some statistical studies show %70 of married men will eventually cheat and %60 of women will. I say some studies, others aren't as high in numbers. That guy was just a very openly aggressive sleazy cheater.

He get takers occasionally no doubt.

 
At 8:32 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Geez...whats the point of being married if theres a 7 in 10 chance he's gonna cheat?

 
At 8:52 AM, Blogger Sara said...

"In reading all these comments, it seems like no one has considered the possibility that his is an open marriage, or one of convenience."

Unique Alias, this could be true. But the whole concept of an open relationship something I completely disagree with.

 
At 9:48 AM, Blogger A Unique Alias said...

Well, yeah, he was probably still a total sleazebag ;-)

 
At 10:08 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

So have all your past boyfriends been totally faithful. Or have they ever cheated and you have stayed with them or gone back to them?

 
At 10:16 AM, Blogger Lil DC Diva said...

I believe every situation is different. I've been cheated on and broke up with the guy (this happened twice with two different guys), and I've been cheated on and got back together. (Gave him a SECOND chance, not a 3rd, 4th, 5th..) I've been cheated on in every serious relationship I've ever had. There was one case where he was deserving of a second chance, but the rest, good riddens to pure scum.

My point is that every situation/person/relationship is different from the next. But cheating/unfaithfullness/married men hitting on other woman will always be wrong in my book. Whether or not the significant other chooses to forgive the cheater, is their choice and no one else's business.

 
At 10:18 AM, Blogger Sara said...

To my knowledge, all of my past boyfriends have been faithful except one. And although I'm a big believer in second chances, I do not feel that way about cheating*. I broke up with him and I never looked back.

*However, I do have a few friends who have given second chances after having been cheated on and their relationships have been happy with no repeat incidents.

 
At 10:32 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

what about married women who cheat on their husbands?

 
At 10:51 AM, Blogger Sara said...

that's just as bad.

 
At 11:01 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once a cheater always a cheater.

 
At 11:06 AM, Blogger Lil DC Diva said...

Nope. Not in all cases. I used to say that too, but you can't label a person's character with that quote. Yes, there are some people that will always be cheaters, but def. not all.

I like this one though:

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

 
At 11:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

There will be people that are cheaters no matter what then there are the cheaters that cheat once they start drinking. So how confident and trustworthy are you when you bf has a boy’s night out. Think about it. Do you truly believe in him 100% or do you ever question his faithfulness to you.

 
At 11:52 AM, Blogger Lil DC Diva said...

Like I just said:

"Whether or not the significant other chooses to forgive the cheater, is their choice and no one else's business."

Under my circumstances, which no one but myself and my boyfriend will ever truely understand/know of, I do not put him in question, if I did, that would be damaging to the relationship and pointless to get back together with him.

 
At 12:09 PM, Anonymous Gran said...

lil dc diva: As long as you are happy and there is trust thats all that matters. Love you. :)

 
At 1:25 PM, Blogger DC Cookie said...

Good lord, I hope all these people are packaging up the goods while all this cheating is happening.

 
At 10:46 PM, Blogger Texas Cutie said...

"Once a cheater always a cheater."

Not necessarily so! I've cheated a few times and would never think of doing it again. Granted it took dating someone worth keeping to show me what a scummy person I was for being so deceitful, but nevertheless, my eyes were open and it would never cross my mind again. Things do change is my point. (Better to get it out of your system while you're young and not married, or something like that. It sucks either way for the other person.)

 
At 11:50 PM, Blogger The Blonde said...

It's weird, because I have total crushes on these older men at work, although they aren't married. But even if they EVER did actually hit on me, especially like you were, I would be grossed out. The older man fantasy is ruined. It's nice to imagine but not actually have.

It's also weird, because as a female, I'm obsessed with getting married, but why would I want to get married to something like that?! A jerk who will cheat?!

PS--I've never been picked up at Potbellys.

 

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