Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Walk by Groping


Asian Mistress touched slightly on this, but it's something that I feel strongly enough to write about also. It's been a long time coming.

Why is it that, when at a bar - crowded or not, guys feel the need to run their hands all over your body while walking by?

Example:

Guy:
  • Line 1: "Excuse me" (touches small of my back)
  • Next line: "Let me squeeze by real quick" (moves hand to trail along my back to my side, places other hand on my stomach)
  • Final line: "Thanks sugar" (slides hand on my side down and around to my ass - light squeeze)

Honestly, it's rude and so annoying. Now, if he's a looker, then I don't normally mind as much ;-) but for the most part it's the guys who are sweaty, not attractive and wouldn't have a chance in hell... which is probably why they get their kicks out of feeling up girls as they walk by.

15 Comments:

At 10:28 AM, Blogger DC Cookie said...

You don't have to accept it. Fight back! Some suggested remedies:

1. Find the biggest guy in the bar to pose as your boyfriend and walk up to the groper and say 'I heard you just touched my girl,' and scare the crap out of the guy.

2. Turn around and give evil stare.

3. Grope back (although I don't recommend this because the guy might take that as positive reinforcement to keep doing it).

4. Find daring gay friend to go and grope the groper for you.

5. Throw drink in the guy's face.

6. Tell guy he is a pressed loser who needs to grow up and keep his hands to himself.

7. 5 and 6 combined.

 
At 10:34 AM, Blogger Asian Mistress said...

Haha great tips cookie!

 
At 10:37 AM, Blogger Sara said...

Great tips cookie. I don't accept it normally either. I just stick with the lean into his ear and say "get your hands off of me, you are disgusting" approach.

I've also gotten pretty good at the combined disgusted eye roll + forceful shoulder jerk into the guy to push him off.

 
At 10:39 AM, Anonymous Mad1 said...

I have to agree with you and cookie on this one. Being a guy I have seen this happen tons of times, with the girlfriends I travel with. I usually stare the guy down that does this so he gets the point not to do it again or I get secuirty to throw him out. I think these walk-by gropers frequent certain places. So if you are in Indebleu or Blue Gin you stand a chance of this occuring less than often. Choose you crowds wisely!

 
At 10:41 AM, Blogger I-66 said...

Whenever I'm making my way through a crowded club/bar, I'm usually very concerned with not spilling my drink. The most I've ever had to do is tap someone on the shoulder and say "excuse me" in an effort to try to get them to give me a little more room to get by... but to linger and wander with my hands would be wayyyyyy out of line - I'd expect to get slapped for that.

 
At 10:44 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love using the "small space to get by" technique as an excuse to slide up to hot girls.

If it happens to you, take it as a compliment. Ugly girls don't have this complaint.

 
At 10:53 AM, Blogger Linz said...

i have to admit that i am one of those people who will touch someone when trying to pass (guys and girls alike), but it's not because i'm trying to feel anyone up. The thing is, i'm a polite Southern girl and unfortunately soft-spoken. So even if i say "excuse me" to try to pass, the person usually doesn't know i'm there...so i give a light touch on the arm, or in REALLY crowded situations, i'll put my arms sort of around a person (on stomach and back, or just back) to squeeze by. Accompanied by a big smile and a "thank you," guys usually love this, and girls have never said anything to me about it. I'm just trying to be nice and get by without bumping anyone. :o)

 
At 10:54 AM, Blogger Dutchess said...

I have to admit, once or twice, I've been guilty of doing this myself. Usually, just to get attention so you can smile as you go by. But, I agree, men should use this technique sparingly!

 
At 11:23 AM, Blogger A Unique Alias said...

The grope aspect is fuck't, but much like Linz, I'll usually touch the top of someone's shoulder as I'm trying to make my way by. Damned if I'm going to stand there saying "excuse me please!" every two feet. A touch on the shoulder usually unobtrusively gets people's attention.

A touch on the ass? I'd say that deserves an "accidental" drink spill on the offending party.

 
At 11:29 AM, Blogger Adam said...

I'll be the first to admit as a guy, I see it happen a lot, but I don't ever remember pulling an ass grab myself...

It also happens the other way around, I've had girls grab my ass too...so don't act all innocent on me...

 
At 11:32 AM, Blogger Dan said...

I execute step one, but stop there. Touching and a slight push in the small of the back helps identify that I am there over a roar of a crowd and helps part the seas, so to speak. But thereafter, I'm gone...

 
At 11:39 AM, Blogger Sara said...

step one can be OK if it's realllllly crowded and you do it for the same reason that dan does.

and, adam, i might tap the shoulder, or maybe touch the arm of a guy that I'm trying to move by. but i don't do that other stuff to random guys! my guy friends = a different story for sure ;-)

 
At 11:48 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd have to be pretty hammered to attempt this one. However, I do know quite a few guys who maintain no regard for human decency. The best part, though, is the retaliation dc cookie suggested. One time I was used for the old fake boyfriend trick and had to threaten some douche bag at a bar. I have also seen guys kicked, kneed, punched and drenched in alcohol for blatently groping asses. Pretty hilarious and definitely worth watching. Just remember, however, that there are still a few decent guys out there who wouldn't even consider this behavior. Don't hate on us all. ;) Good Post

 
At 3:32 PM, Blogger Johnny said...

you should try it on a hot guy, sara!

;p

 
At 5:39 PM, Blogger DC Cookie said...

Is it bad that I do the same thing to men in a bar? hee hee

 

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