Oh, no. He didn't...
So, we all know how I feel about visible panty lines
if you will... But today, (on the metro ride from hell - I swear we were packed tighter than sardines bc of delays on the Orange line), I saw a MAN with them. Which is actually a first for me.
And he was married... Shouldn't married people look out for each other for stuff like that? I mean, I'm just wondering...
It is unnecessary and annoying. I know that friends mostly mean well when they blurt out what (they think) you're doing wrong and/or why what they (think they) know is better than what you do. But, my goodness, it is so frustrating.
It's one thing if a friend is putting herself in a dangerous situation. Because then, as a true friend, you need to let her know that you're worried for her and are here for her if she needs you. (Or him, if it's a guy of course.)
But otherwise, just keep your mouth shut. Please :)
This is something that has always bothered me, but recently it's been stemming from the fact that I am going to, in the next half year, be making some major changes in my life. Changes that are going to make me a lot happier and more inline with the future that I want. And my mind's made up. 100%. I know that the choices that I'm going to make are the right ones for me.
And all I want is support, which mostly I've been given... But there are a few friends who've felt the need to tell me what they'd
do if they in my shoes. I appreciate the fact that their words stem from love for me and wanting to help me, but 1) I'm not asking for their help and 2) they are NOT in my shoes. Yes, there are many different ways to do things, I understand that. But the way that I choose is the way that suits me best. And because you're NOT in my shoes, you can't really tell me that I'm wrong.
Unless, as I said before, the situation is a dangerous one, I really try to curtail anything unsolicited from coming out of my mouth... Because I think that people should be able to hope and dream and really reach for their goals - without my opinion bringing them down... Unless they ask for my thoughts, in which case I am always honest. OK, maybe I do express my views on the blog... but that's different :) I just wish that everyone would adopt the same policy. Don't give your opinion if it's not asked for! Because if it's not asked for, it's most likely not wanted.
Anyway - I'm off to ballet... PEACE
Tom, that is
... Was dropped from Paramount
due to his unacceptable behavior, which apparently affected the company's box-office takings.
Welp, That's A Wrap...I think!
You are probably sick of hearing about my dating escapades by now. Welp, its my blog and I'll cry if I want to.
Or maybe I am just being premature in my thinking...I don't know.
So "Harry" and I had a great second date, and the next night he invited me to a baseball game. We went, had a blast, got coffee and breakfast after the game, shared kisses, held hands, and had another wonderful night. Date number three was just as fun as dates number one and two.
I felt a great connection with him. From the first date we had just clicked. I know its only been three dates and realize it takes MUCH more to get to really know a person, but things seem to be on a great track.
I haven't spoken to him since Saturday night but we've very very briefly spoken on IM. Both times I IM'ed him. Both times his response was that he was going to bed. That was that. Not 'how was your day' or 'when can I see you' or even a simple 'hi'...
Now I dont expect him to jump up and scream my name and profess his love to me. That would freak me out! But I feel that if he wants to continue what we have started...the past two days he gets a F for effort. His contact with me went from very intense to very minimal...which is very up and down...and not acceptable in my book.
It could very well be that he isnt interested anymore, but seeming out we left off on Saturday night (waited for my subway to come, passionately kissing me goodnight)... I was left with butterflies in my stomach!! (For the first time in a long time)
This is the part where dating gets annoying AND complicated. This is where I start thinking and analyzing way too much, protecting my feelings and my emotional stability from even the slightest mishap. This is what ALWAYS happens to me when I start liking someone!! I freak out and get paranoid and don't know what to do, and I feel that he can see my thoughts over IM and know that I am liking him and freaking out about it.
I need a vacation. Not a man!
I'll be on vacy for the next few days...enjoying and remembering why its FABULOUS to be single and stress free!
Three strikes...errr dates...and I'm OUT!
Date Number Two
I've learned that second dates can either go downhill or up. There is no inbetween. If the first date was great, there is really no telling what the second will be like. First dates are the two people trying to impress the other person, they are on their best behavior, using their manners, trying not to get sloppy (if they find out they like the person.)So I had my second date with "Harry" last night. If you haven't been keeping up with my dating trials and tribulations, feel free to refer to my two previous postings.I'll admit I was somewhat nervous because the first date went so well. My expectations were so high I was a bit scared I would be let down. But hey, thats the game of dating!We decided to meet up at a posh rooftop bar in the city last night. Amongest a rowdy crowd cheering for their Yankees (who were playing the Red Sox), annoying drunk girls who tried to steal his seat from him, and bump and grind music being played over the loud speakers, somehow we both still felt like we were the only people there.At one point, Harry stopped and looked around with a puzzled look on his face. "I just forgot where I was. I didn't even notice that we were here...because I've been talking to you all night!"Once again we chatted, laughed, made fun of the drunks, and a few hours later (okay okay by this time it was 2:45 am) we decided we were starving and went to get breakfast at a diner. Over french toast, eggs, and bacon at 3am we continued to enjoy each others company. Honestly if it wasnt 4am knowing that the sun would be up in an hour, I would have stayed out for 10 more hours.We finished our meal and realized it was time to call it a night. He paid for everything. Drinks at the bar, the cab, the breakfast. I even offered to pay the cab and breakfast! He wouldn't let me.Harry finally walked me out to my cab...gave me a hug, and, our first kiss goodnight. :-)Any nerves or anxiety I had over the coming 2nd date have been withered away. I am looking forward to the 3rd date because I know it will be just as, if not more FUN! I'm at the point now where I know I like him and enjoy being with him. But do I keep pursuing others with online dating? Should I still be looking to see whats out there? I'm definetely very interested in him, but I don't want to throw all my cards in one basket, but at the same time I don't want to spread myself to thin. Ah! Will keep you posted.
So now that I have this whole "logging in" thing down...let's get down to business. My business. A lot has happened in the past fews days (or shall I say dates?) and I feel compelled to share.
As you may know, Sara is in a wonderful relationship right now. I really think this is it for her. While I have never met the handsome fellow, I have personally called him and talked to him on the phone -- and 100 percent approve. Sara and I have been through our share of terrible men, so when one of my best friends finds a man that can make her this happy (and I have never seen her like this) - then I couldn't be happier as well!
And then there is me. My past relationships have been a firey trainwreck. First, my first love - we dated on and off for five years. He cheated. Then, my first boyfriend in college - he cheated. Finally, my most recent disaster (although its been a year now) - he cheated and is now dating a former friend. Of course I am better off without those bastards, but is it so wrong to wish for the right one to come along after have these awful, abusive relationships? I've been on a loosing streak since HIGH SCHOOL.
I haven't given up. I've come to realize that I've just picked the wrong men for me. And Sara has helped me realize that all these unfortunate things that have happened to me in my past relationships are only stepping stones to lead me to the one who actually WILL treat me right.
So in that case, bring on the men!
I've recently thrown myself into the fiesty sea of online dating. I have date #2 this coming weekend with "Harry"...(see my first posting)I am surely looking forward to that date (we decided on a movie.) At a magazine party this past Tuesday I met a handsome gentleman we will call "Brandon". Brandon works in finance (like every other NYC guy) and coincidentally (and somewhat convient) I found out he lives in my SAME apartment building. Had I not lived in NYC I would have been shocked and probably put some underlying meaning to meeting a guy at a posh party who happens to live in my building. But I've learned that you can run into ANYONE living here, and running into someone who lives in your building is likely to happen. Anywho, Brandon and I seemed to "hit it off"...and I put that in quotes because when there is alcohol involved, you can hit it off with anyone. I gave him my number, he gave me his. It will be intesting to find out if he takes the initiative to actually call me. I've decided if I don't hear from him in a week I will call and invite him out to a bar with my friends (that idea I got from Glamour magazine.) So instead of sulking around and crying about what could have been, I am looking forward to what will be...if not with the guys mentioned above I know with someone and I am willing to wait -- for I know it will be WELL worth it! :-)
Kate's back on the market...
So, just announced, Kate Hudson has split up with her husband Chris Robinson
. Although I'm sad for them, I always thought they seemed a little mismatched.
That being said, I can't wait to see who she pairs up with next! (I previously said this about Jessica Simpson, even though I secretly still hope she and Nick will get back together, but she's been so boring lately - dating-wise anyway.)
Kate's so hot. Let's imagine her next to some of hollywood's hottest stars and YOU pick who she'd look the best with!
First up, Kate and Jared Leto (back when he used to be SUPER hot)
And how about Kate with my current favorite cutie, Tatum Channing:
Or how about with the love of my life (second to my boyfriend, of course) Ryan Reynolds:
(She must be laughing at something HILARIOUS that he said, as he is so funny...)
Or, just for one more here she is with the hottie from Prison Break:
Welp. There ya have it folks. Take your pick! (My vote's for Jared Leto - of course based solely on looks...)
One's Quest For Love
Dating in New York City can go to the dogs. Of course I am young, beautiful, and fabulous, but lets face it...so is every other girl walking down the street here. This place is full of gorgeous and ambitious women...and men too. And while everything else in our lives seems to be together (the career, the social life, health) there is ONE thing we can't figure out: DATING.
I hear the men complain as much as the women: no one can find the right person, not even the one they want to marry, but just one that they like. Maybe its because we are used to such a fast-paced hard-driving lifestyle that a quick romance is perfect for instant gratification...but in the long run its just not going to cut it.
Which is why I've just checked into online dating.
I know, I know. I was a skeptic at first as well. I won't lie to you and tell you there aren't creepy guys on there. There ARE. But don't let the few ruin it for all the good ones.
So last night I put my little online dating trial run to a test and went on a blind date. We'll call him "Harry." Harry's pictures were cute, his profile seemed interesting, and we got to chatting online...(yes I know phone is too personal these days, IM is safer) We finally decided we should meet up for dinner.
I hadn't talked to Harry on the phone until last night, when I was in the cab trying to figure out where this restaurant was. I was pleased when I walked up to him and saw that he looked exactly like his pictures. He was actually even CUTER in person, a major plus. He escorted me inside and we sat down at 9 p.m. for dinner. We ate, chatted, laughed, drank...and before we knew it the clock hit 3am. Neither of us had moved from our seats all night. I looked around the restaurant and saw that we were the only people left and the waitress was kicking us out! Harry walked me to my cab, kissed me on the cheek, and sent me on my way. It was the best first date I've ever had.
So will there be another? Surely I do hope so. But even if not, I am now one to vouche that online dating is worth a shot. Whether its your quest for love or just to find a friend, spending a Saturday night laughing and learning about a new person beats going to a bar and taking shots with a random drunk guy anyday!
I guess I owe all my thanks to Dr. Phil. :-)
Step, Step, Step it Up
From the bias of a girl who's danced her entire life - Step Up is a FANTASTIC movie. There's a ton of dancing, the main characters are hot, hot, hot and the plot was decent - even if predictable (but, hello, I was concentrating on the dance scenes anyway).
The movie was so good that I've been inspired into getting my ass back into the dance scene. Seriously - this week I'll be taking classes in the city - ballet and hip hop. And I'm determined to stick with it. I can't wait!
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaand... We're back!
Well, I am at least... And I'm joined by a new writer who will introduce herself shortly... It was just too hard to stay away! These fingers have just been ITCHING
See you soon!